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Control Your Thoughts Or Your Thoughts Will Control You

by Bruno Deshayes on 27 Apr 2017 permalink
Do you feel you have invested a good chunk of your life into someone else and now it has all been trashed?

Are you being drawn to appropriate blame on something that happened in the past?

Bad things happen to good people for no fault of their own - this is life - welcome to the real world!

The issue is not what happened - you cannot change it. The issue is - how are you going to move from here?

The short and sweet answer to it all is this - GET OVER IT! Some of you may not yet be ready to hear it but the sooner you are able to close the door on the past and rebuild your future from where you are now in the present - the better off you will be.

How does controlling your thoughts can help? The battle is in the mind. The self-talk that goes on in your head is something you can address.

There is something in us that cries out for justice when we have been wronged. There are also scores of people around the world who are worse off than you and yet do not complain. What is their secret? They have learned to let go of unnecessary emotional baggage. Are you travelling lightly or are you burdened with remorse and bitterness? If so it can become a mental cancer that will eat you up if you let it get hold of you. There is indeed a time to mourn the loss of a relationship, the loss of an opportunity, the loss of a whole section of your life that has apparently gone to waste.

But there is also a time to move on. Only you can decide when and how to do that. Maybe moving to a different town will give you a change of scenery. Although be mindful of not cutting whatever emotional support you have left.

A good mental discipline is to say "I will not go there!" when you are being drawn to reminisce about the same old scenario. This can happen first thing in the morning when you wake up or when you are idle sitting in public transport. Catch it in its tracks - snap out of it - this thing is trying to own you.

The flip side of all of this is that there are valuable lessons in life that you can only learn through overcoming adversity. Did you hear me? You have been chosen worthy to go through your experience because you will come out stronger and more mature out of it. Welcome to the club of the braves.

It's not what happened to me that matters; it's how I handle it!

Fernando Gallegos says:
Thanks Bruno. Truly inspiring and motivating. Ever thought of presenting your philosophies to an audience? Seriously!

Linda Brooks says:
Lighthouses are never built in safe places. So if all you see around you are rocks and shipwrecks, maybe you have been given the privilege of being a lighthouse. In spite of the dark solitary shadows of night, your place in life has a reason.

Adrian McCabe says:
Great article Bruno. Keep up the good work! God bless.



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